Every month in towns and cities across Australia, over 2000 men meet in small groups and sit down for a simple meal with the intention of talking about what’s going on for them. The guidelines are simple: listen, don’t fix; share from the heart; and keep conversations confidential.

“The Men’s Table is about creating a unique environment for men to talk, laugh and share openly about their lives with other men who they learn to know, like and trust,” says Dave Robinson, Regional Host for New England, Hunter, Mid & North Coast.

“It is a safe space where men can ‘go beyond banter’ to have better conversations and connections.”

The Men’s Table began in 2011 when a group of men sat down to dinner to connect and talk about the highs and lows of their lives. Since becoming a charity in 2019, the organisation has grown and there are now more than 205 Men’s Tables across Australia, giving men of all ages, backgrounds and experiences the opportunity to meet others, share a meal and simply talk.

“We know that men are less likely than women to maintain social connection, and they’re often reluctant to share personal thoughts and emotions preferring to bottle things up and deal with it on their own. It’s not healthy for men, so we encourage participants to talk openly about what’s going on for them and how they’re feeling about it.

“By doing so we realise we’re not alone, and it creates a real sense of belonging, community, friendship and support that is lacking for many men, even for some who already have a group of mates.”

The average age range of members is between 45 to 65 and it has grown in popularity in all areas, with 52% of Men’s Tables located in rural and regional areas. There are no membership fees, men simply pay for their meal once a month.

“The first step to joining a Table is to attend an Entree, which are held either online or in person and are hosted by two men from existing Tables who share their experiences and respond to any questions,” explains Dave.

“Men can experience how a Table works in a relaxed and conversational setting and decide if it’s for them. There is no obligation to join a Table after attending an Entree, but we find most men then choose to join a Table and then from there it is as simple as getting together once a month.

“Belonging to a Men’s Table is much more than just having a meal. By building connections and getting stuff off our chest it helps contribute to mental, emotional and social well-being, benefits which ripple out from the men at Tables to their families, friends and communities.”